December 29, 2017

"I’m a misogynist. I’m a black man who likes to think of himself as a feminist. I’m a progressive. I’m gay."

"Hopefully, I’m a relatively decent guy; I certainly mean well. Still, I’m also a misogynist. How could I not be?"

So begins Kai Wright in "The Misogynist Within/Sexual harassment expresses power dynamics from which all men benefit" at The Nation.

34 comments:

Quaestor said...

I wonder if John Calvin knew how much mind rot was at the bottom of that barrel he opened in 1540.

rhhardin said...

Women aren't good at identifying who's a friend and who's not.

So misogyny gets inserted into strange narratives.

pacwest said...

OK professor, put down the keyboard and step away from the screen before someone gets hurt. This has gone on long enough.

Darrell said...

And still, the world's most interesting man is that guy that drinks Dos Equis beer.

Tank said...

He forgot:

"I'm an idiot."

JAORE said...

“Single mother” remains a casual, if coded, slur..."

I knew I should have saved and sent in those box tops when I was 11. My lack of the "Secret Decoder Ring" has stifled my wokeness something fierce.

Jon Burack said...

This man seems to want to beat himself up. If so, I prefer he'd do it in the privacy of his own home. But really, in actuality, he wants to beat all the rest of us up, doesn't he? He's a misogynist because society made him one. That is I, You, and They made him one. It's the old Officer Krupke routine once again. "We're down on our knees, 'cauz no one wants a fella with a social disease."

John Borell said...

I read that three times and still don't know what the hell that means. He hates women? He's a black man who is progressive, gay, and a feminist. Okay then.

I'll try my hand at the same thing.

I'm a man.

Enough said.

Sydney said...

I don't have time to read his article, so I will ask those of you who have. Is he saying he's a misogynist because he's a man or because he is a gay man?

tcrosse said...

How nice to be a member of several groups that are Above Criticism.

chuck said...

Comrade, we demand self-criticism to deal with your counterrevolutionary, reactionary thinking. Forward!

Fernandistein said...

I’m a misogynist.

He's refreshingly insightful and honest!

I’m a black man

His struggles in Trump's Racist America made him strong and wise!

who likes to think of himself as a feminist. I’m a progressive.

He's good-hearted!

I’m gay.

He's intersectional!

Fernandistein said...

I should congratulate the guy on being "a black man" (probably mulatto, since he brought it up) and writing an article on something other than how terrible it is to be black.

But I won't because he gratuitously mentioned his race in the second sentence.

Tim at large said...

I don’t know. #BLAMEALLMEN? Sexual harassment seems to be a behavior that many asshole men cover for by declaring themselves pro-choice, liberals, and champions of women’s rights. I can see why the public revelation of this little gambit used by amoral cads (cough, cough Bill Clinton) is an embarrassment to liberals. Many of us men have no understanding of why anybody would even do it. But obviously women have a wider experience of different kinds of men. But I guess this means that if these men are such a pox on women-kind, maybe it is they who need to suffer for it, not the rest of us.

Another idea might be maybe that women might examine why so many of them are attracted to loud-mouthed jerks, increasing the incidence of said jerks in the human race. There is another useless project for you, let’s blame all women too.

BTW, the only men in my actual experience who have experienced unwanted sexual come-ons when they were younger and more powerless, experienced them at the hands of gay men. So maybe before he speaks for half the human race, he should examine his own cohort.

Tim at large said...

It’s sort of funny that men who empirically study and experiment with the process of getting laid, with successful insertion of their penis into an actual vagina the only criteria of success, and who are quite willing to use whatever tactics work the best, find that being what many of us would call “a jerk” works the best, in terms of numbers.

DavidD said...

“I’m a man. But I can change. If I have to. I guess.”

David Blaska said...

Just when you think identity politics can't get any more ridiculous.

Oso Negro said...

That's one fucked up negro, right there.

PB said...

He's whack, that's for sure.

William said...

He takes a hard, unsparing look at his misogyny and decides that it's all due to white men.

Krumhorn said...

Generally, an article like that is intended as bait for the resistance womyn so that he can get laid. Laslo Spatula (I miss the guy!!) guided us through this with the help of The Clean College Chick With The Hot Nose Ring and Herpes.

But but but this clown is gay. So I’m missing his purpose.

- Krumhorn

Drago said...

Krumhorn: "Laslo Spatula (I miss the guy!!) guided us through this with the help of The Clean College Chick With The Hot Nose Ring and Herpes."

James James informs us that Laslo will always be with us...even unto the end of this blog.

n.n said...

He is indeed monotonically... confused. PC.

Rick Turley said...

JAORE said...

"I knew I should have saved and sent in those box tops when I was 11. My lack of the "Secret Decoder Ring" has stifled my wokeness something fierce."

I don't know about that. It always comes out "Drink more Ovaltine" when I use mine.

Gahrie said...

Hopefully, I’m a relatively decent guy; I certainly mean well. Still, I’m also a misogynist. How could I not be?

Doesn't this imply that women are also misogynists, or that there are in fact innate differences between men and women?

Gahrie said...

It’s sort of funny that men who empirically study and experiment with the process of getting laid, with successful insertion of their penis into an actual vagina the only criteria of success, and who are quite willing to use whatever tactics work the best, find that being what many of us would call “a jerk” works the best, in terms of numbers.

Exactly. PUAs are attacked for their tactics, but they are only doing what works. If being woke and a nice guy got you laid more often, the PUAs would be woke and nice guys.

But you can't mention this because it violates rule #1: Women must never be made to feel bad about, or responsible for, anything.

Caligula said...


"Women still make roughly 80 cents on the dollar that’s paid to men." --> BUT it's not for the same work, or even the same amount of work. This may be the most dishonest statistic on the planet, yet it is seemingly immortal. If the author doesn't know or care about what's wrong with it, why should I read the (obviously dishonest) author?

"It’s the case for families: Single mother remains a casual, if coded, slur ..." --> Yes, most of understand that stuff happens. BUT, there's overwhelming evidence that, in the aggregate, children with resident fathers have better life outcomes than those without. And then we have yet another single-mother-by-choice who just doesn't care about that, because (whatever). So why, exactly, is it such a bad idea to express social disapproval for those who make this choice- because mommy's feelings might be hurt?

"America is rooted in misogyny, and thus so am I. I have spent most of my adult life trying to acknowledge these facts and correct the way they shape my own behavior. --> So buy yourself a whip already, and go flagellate yourself in public. What, you say it's not you you wish to take a whip to??

"Masculinity operates like whiteness: It demands control over any space it enters." --> But you're not a bigot, no,no, not you. It's just, how dare a man act masculine (let alone assume a masculine identity), and how could one not be deeply ashamed with having been born white?

Jupiter said...

Sydney said...
"I don't have time to read his article, so I will ask those of you who have. Is he saying he's a misogynist because he's a man or because he is a gay man?"

I think he's just a joiner. He wants to be part of any group he hears about. He's probably a Communist and a Rotarian, too.

walter said...

Pretty efficient piece in terms of virtue signals to keystroke ratio.
Free will makes us all victims it seems:
"As is often the case, I only made contact with the problem when I felt how much I’ve also been hurt by a society built to diminish women. "

I look forward to his piece about Sheila Jackson Lee.

walter said...

Again..pretty efficient:
Progressives wrestled with representational politics in 2016. We fought mightily over what, if anything, the fact of Hillary Clinton’s gender should have meant for voters. Trump’s voters were clear what his gender meant for them. It meant a reassertion of patriarchy. It was morning in America for the white man: Grab ’em by the pussy and give a rebel yell.
--
The first sentence was/is certainly true..

Darkisland said...

Does he also identify as "confused"?

John Henry

walter said...

Diamond and Silk must have stung..

The Cracker Emcee Activist said...

How does someone dive headlong into wild self-parody and not have the slightest inkling they’re doing so?

openidname said...

Some Christians (including Martin Luther) whip themselves to demonstrate their piety and to overcome their sinful nature -- even though they believe they were born sinful.

Plus ça change.